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samanthajane13
08-07-2008, 10:03 AM
I wasn't in hiding or avoiding the boards. So many things have happened in the last two weeks...and I've been staying at my mom's house with Katey...

Last Wednesday night, my grandfather, John Bonauito, had a MASSIVE HEART ATACK with renal failure.

He's 95 years old, and after 4 days in the hospital, he was moved back to the nursing home, since he has a DNR, and they can't possibly do anything for him other than make him comfortable anyway. At his age, he isn't a candidate for a pace maker, and he made his wishes clear in his DNR.

NO HEROIC MEASURES.

So that means that all they can do for him is give him pain meds and oxygen.

At this point, we all realize that the end is VERY NEAR, so please join his family and friends to pray for a painless and peaceful death when the time comes.

He's raised 3 generations of girls, as the central male in our lives, when divorces happened or fathers walked out, so he's much more than Grandpa...

It's just a matter of when now...:(

FDInLaw
08-07-2008, 10:07 AM
I'm so sorry Samantha. . . MEGA HUGS!!!!!!!!!! :rose:

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

grneyes
08-07-2008, 10:11 AM
I'm so sorry! http://bestsmileys.com/hugging/1.gif

SaraSidle
08-07-2008, 05:09 PM
Oh Samantha I am so sorry. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

One2Snoop
08-07-2008, 05:18 PM
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susie31023
08-07-2008, 05:55 PM
Samantha my love and prayers to you and your family. May he be at peace and not suffer. He sounds like a wonderful man. Love to you and if you need anything I'm right here. Susie

Seashell
08-07-2008, 06:08 PM
Samantha i send you all my love and prayers please keep strong and know i care, hugs.S.

samanthajane13
08-07-2008, 09:40 PM
Grandpa finally passed today at about 10:30 am.

:(

He was one in a million, and it was an honor and privilege to be his grand-daughter. He was one of the most intelligent people I've met in my entire life, even though he never went beyond the 12th grade. I learned more from him than I ever learned from any of my teachers.

The world has lost a truly special person today, and I really pity those who never met him.

He was surrounded with the people who cared for him the last 4 years since he had the stroke. They sat by his bed-side and prayed over him, and tucked a Rosary into his hands-as he's Catholic-and they opened the window to his room, and a moment later, he passed on...like he knew the window had to be open for his Spirit to fly free to Heaven...

He's home now, with Grandma Lenore, and we'll miss them both fiercely, but wouldn't wish them back here in the condition in which they left this life.

Thank you all for your prayers and kindness.

Hugs-
Donna, Katey, and family

RIP, Grandpa. Give our love to Grandma...
We miss you both so much...

FDInLaw
08-07-2008, 10:01 PM
More hugs. . . I'm so sorry for your loss. May your Grandpa be at peace. This song is for you, sweet one. . .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J6Zfx5qra_g


:rose: :rose: :rose:

SaraSidle
08-07-2008, 10:08 PM
I am so sorry Samantha. this is a painful time for you and your family. I know you and your family will give each other support and caring through this time. Just know we are thinking of you and hugging you. :rose:

samanthajane13
08-07-2008, 11:22 PM
FD-

Thanks so much. I know the song VERY WELL, even though I can't listen to it right now...it's just too soon-and too raw. It seems that no matter how well prepared you are, and how well you know that the end is near, it still hits you like a punch in the face when a loved one passes away. We've had a week since his heart attack, and it STILL HURTS LIKE HELL!!!

In fact I burned a couple of discs to play at the wake, and that song is on it, along with Faith of The Heart and Daddy's Hands, and several of Grandpa's favorites and songs that remind us of him.

I did save the link to my favorites, though, and will always think of Grandpa when I hear the song.

Thank you, my friend!

lighthousedazy
08-07-2008, 11:56 PM
Grandpa finally passed today at about 10:30 am.

:(

He was one in a million, and it was an honor and privilege to be his grand-daughter. He was one of the most intelligent people I've met in my entire life, even though he never went beyond the 12th grade. I learned more from him than I ever learned from any of my teachers.

The world has lost a truly special person today, and I really pity those who never met him.

He was surrounded with the people who cared for him the last 4 years since he had the stroke. They sat by his bed-side and prayed over him, and tucked a Rosary into his hands-as he's Catholic-and they opened the window to his room, and a moment later, he passed on...like he knew the window had to be open for his Spirit to fly free to Heaven...

He's home now, with Grandma Lenore, and we'll miss them both fiercely, but wouldn't wish them back here in the condition in which they left this life.

Thank you all for your prayers and kindness.

Hugs-
Donna, Katey, and family

RIP, Grandpa. Give our love to Grandma...
We miss you both so much...Hugs and prayers, Samantha. I know how hard it is to lose parents and grandparents no matter what age they are. My Mom was 86 and my paternal Grandpa was 92 and paternal Grandma was 99. I still miss them. You and your family are in my prayers. :rose:

odette
08-08-2008, 12:22 AM
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Its just me
08-08-2008, 12:28 AM
Grandpa finally passed today at about 10:30 am.

:(

He was one in a million, and it was an honor and privilege to be his grand-daughter. He was one of the most intelligent people I've met in my entire life, even though he never went beyond the 12th grade. I learned more from him than I ever learned from any of my teachers.

The world has lost a truly special person today, and I really pity those who never met him.

He was surrounded with the people who cared for him the last 4 years since he had the stroke. They sat by his bed-side and prayed over him, and tucked a Rosary into his hands-as he's Catholic-and they opened the window to his room, and a moment later, he passed on...like he knew the window had to be open for his Spirit to fly free to Heaven...

He's home now, with Grandma Lenore, and we'll miss them both fiercely, but wouldn't wish them back here in the condition in which they left this life.

Thank you all for your prayers and kindness.

Hugs-
Donna, Katey, and family

RIP, Grandpa. Give our love to Grandma...
We miss you both so much...

:rose:I'm so sorry to hear of your loss...Sounds like he was a very special Grandpa. I know Grandma was there to welcome him home. Prayers for God's comfort during this difficult time. Love and Support IJM/fep

debbyuk2008
08-08-2008, 12:53 AM
Sorry to hear the news Samantha and of course, he is in our prayers.

I have this thought that helps me when someone dies. When my dad died I was pregnant (the last pregnancy miscarried at 20 weeks), and in a complete state.
But someone pointed out its a bit like dad has moved to Australia. I would probably not see him in this lifetime. However, I would definitely see him again someday.
That made me feel better!

Big hugs

samanthajane13
08-08-2008, 08:41 AM
Thank you both so much for your support and prayers.

Hugs-
Donna, Katey and family

Seashell
08-08-2008, 09:20 AM
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I am so sorry samantha, big hugs.Seashell. :rose:

WarmNCozy
08-08-2008, 11:09 AM
http://i243.photobucket.com/albums/ff305/CozyNWarm/Health%20and%20Loss/condolences.gif

samanthajane13
08-09-2008, 12:50 AM
Thanks again, everyone...

Today was a long day-making the wake and funeral arrangements and all.

I crashed right after dinner and just woke up at about 11:30.

I hope to be on more tomorrow...

Hugs-
Donna

Seashell
08-09-2008, 03:06 AM
Keep strong hun and also think how fortunate you are to have had such a lovelly granpa and am sure he knew he really was loved, say goodbye to him with much love.
Big hug from your friend.Seashell :rose:

samanthajane13
08-09-2008, 08:30 AM
Thanks so much, Seashell.

You know, my mom never really understood my need to hang out on-line to talk with total strangers, sharing our triumphs and tragedies and our most vulnerable moments...until I showed her this thread and a few others I have out there in cyber-space asking for people to join us in prayer about Grandpa's then-impending death.

She was amazed-and IMPRESSED!!! Total strangers sharing our grief and reaching out to comfort us...and praying Grandpa into Heaven.

I think she finally gets it!!!

And again-I thank EVERYONE!

Hugs-
Donna, Katey and family

samanthajane13
08-11-2008, 03:16 AM
Thank you all for caring.

Grandpa was a very unique and special man.

Bonauito, John A.


BONAUITO - John A. August 7, 2008, age 95; Beloved husband of the late Lenore J. (nee Argue) Bonauito; Loving father of Linda Holz; Cherished grandfather of Donna Moorhouse and great grandfather of Jennifer (Michael) Harris and Katherine Rybat. The family will be present on Monday from 7-9 PM at the (French Road Chapel) Urban-AMIGONE FUNERAL HOME, 1024 French Road, Cheektowaga, where Funeral Services will be held on Tuesday at 10 AM followed by a Mass of Christian Burial Celebrated from Fourteen Holy Helpers Church, Indian Church Road, Gardenville at 11 AM. Friends invited. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the Mercy Flight Foundation.

Online guest register at http://www.legacy.com/buffalonews/GB...onId=115259375

http://www.legacy.com/buffalonews/De...=SearchResults

susie31023
08-11-2008, 04:07 AM
Thank you all for caring.

Grandpa was a very unique and special man.

Bonauito, John A.


BONAUITO - John A. August 7, 2008, age 95; Beloved husband of the late Lenore J. (nee Argue) Bonauito; Loving father of Linda Holz; Cherished grandfather of Donna Moorhouse and great grandfather of Jennifer (Michael) Harris and Katherine Rybat. The family will be present on Monday from 7-9 PM at the (French Road Chapel) Urban-AMIGONE FUNERAL HOME, 1024 French Road, Cheektowaga, where Funeral Services will be held on Tuesday at 10 AM followed by a Mass of Christian Burial Celebrated from Fourteen Holy Helpers Church, Indian Church Road, Gardenville at 11 AM. Friends invited. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the Mercy Flight Foundation.

Online guest register at http://www.legacy.com/buffalonews/GB...onId=115259375

http://www.legacy.com/buffalonews/De...=SearchResults

Donna, all my love to you and your family:rose:. He truly seems like a very unique man. I never really got to know any of my grandparents they had all passed except for my moms dad when I was born. He passed away when I was 11 and lived kinda far away from us so only saw hime afew times. From what I saw he was a good man. You were truly blessed. If you ever need to talk I am here. All my love:rose:, Susie

ladybugg1
08-11-2008, 07:22 AM
I wasn't in hiding or avoiding the boards. So many things have happened in the last two weeks...and I've been staying at my mom's house with Katey...

Last Wednesday night, my grandfather, John Bonauito, had a MASSIVE HEART ATACK with renal failure.

He's 95 years old, and after 4 days in the hospital, he was moved back to the nursing home, since he has a DNR, and they can't possibly do anything for him other than make him comfortable anyway. At his age, he isn't a candidate for a pace maker, and he made his wishes clear in his DNR.

NO HEROIC MEASURES.

So that means that all they can do for him is give him pain meds and oxygen.

At this point, we all realize that the end is VERY NEAR, so please join his family and friends to pray for a painless and peaceful death when the time comes.

He's raised 3 generations of girls, as the central male in our lives, when divorces happened or fathers walked out, so he's much more than Grandpa...

It's just a matter of when now...:(





Prayers being sent your way...
you need them now & later...
prayers help all the time...
GOD BLESS

Its just me
08-11-2008, 08:57 AM
Thanks so much, Seashell.

You know, my mom never really understood my need to hang out on-line to talk with total strangers, sharing our triumphs and tragedies and our most vulnerable moments...until I showed her this thread and a few others I have out there in cyber-space asking for people to join us in prayer about Grandpa's then-impending death.

She was amazed-and IMPRESSED!!! Total strangers sharing our grief and reaching out to comfort us...and praying Grandpa into Heaven.

I think she finally gets it!!!

And again-I thank EVERYONE!

Hugs-
Donna, Katey and family

I would have never believed the love and support coming from cyber-space either but I'm like you and experienced it first hand. Amazing and is a God send.

:rose: You and your family remain in my prayers. Love IJM

samanthajane13
08-12-2008, 07:22 AM
Last night, we had the wake, and it was a smallish group. There aren't many of our family left in our area, but many of our old neighbors came by, and people Mom worked with-who were like a second family to me as I was growing up.

It was nice though.

We set up two display boards with pictures and some of Grandpa's achievements, and a few framed pictures were set out.

We ended up sitting in a cluster, telling stories about Grandpa, and the funny things he used to do. We all ended up laughing and hugging...:D

Some people might not consider it a very dignified wake, but it's usually the way it ends up with our family-and it works!

Later this morning, we have his Mass, and burial, then a luncheon.

So far we're doing okay...

Thanks so much for all the prayers and support. It means the world to us!

FDInLaw
08-12-2008, 10:54 AM
Will have y'all in my thoughts and prayers today. . . HUGGERS ~ FD

:rose: :rose: :rose:

SaraSidle
08-12-2008, 11:32 AM
Last night, we had the wake, and it was a smallish group. There aren't many of our family left in our area, but many of our old neighbors came by, and people Mom worked with-who were like a second family to me as I was growing up.

It was nice though.

We set up two display boards with pictures and some of Grandpa's achievements, and a few framed pictures were set out.

We ended up sitting in a cluster, telling stories about Grandpa, and the funny things he used to do. We all ended up laughing and hugging...:D

Some people might not consider it a very dignified wake, but it's usually the way it ends up with our family-and it works!

Later this morning, we have his Mass, and burial, then a luncheon.

So far we're doing okay...

Thanks so much for all the prayers and support. It means the world to us!

oh Samantha laughing is part of grieving and it is great your family can be together and great you can remember the stories. I have found that when my family loses someone everytime we sit and tell stories it is like that person is with us in our minds and our hearts. Good to do that. Especially on holidays. Hang in there Samantha lots of prayers coming your way. :rose::rose:

soccermom
08-12-2008, 12:12 PM
I am so sorry for your loss, You have my deepest sympathy.

One2Snoop
08-12-2008, 01:15 PM
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debbyuk2008
08-12-2008, 01:42 PM
So sorry to hear the news Samantha. Big hugs from England.

samanthajane13
08-15-2008, 09:28 AM
Thank you all very much for the support in the last week or so.

It means the world to us.:)

RIP, Lenore and John Bonauito
We miss you so much, Grandma and Grandpa!